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It started out in October, 1994. I had been separated from my ex-wife for over a year, and the divorce was pending. I always seemed to make friends more easily with women than men, and ran around with a certain support group. Our little group was mostly women, leaving me the only guy in a group of about 7. Now most guys would take advantage of this and try to get a member or two into bed, but not me. I was very close to everyone in the group and had no inclination to risk any friendships with sex. As a matter of fact there was this one girl, Linda, that was being Stalked by a guy. I made sure that guy had a world of hurt :)
Well, we all decided to have a Halloween party, and being the unusual person that I am I decided to go all out for the costume. I knew we were going to go party hopping that night, and I didn't want to stand out as the only guy in the group. I was buying a soda at a local carry-out racking my brain as to what costume I wanted to wear at the party. I saw a certain beer company display with a life size cardboard cutoutof Elvira, Mistress of the Dark. That's when it hit me. I would suprise my friends by dressing up as Elvira :)
I rented the full costume at a local costume supply house, complete with wig and breast forms. On the day of the party, I picked up the costume and went over to my sister's house. After spending about five or six hours shaving my arms, chest and legs I put on the costume. Since I had never used makeup before, besides simple stage makeup, I had my sister and niece do it for me. They did a superb job! I have some pictures of that party at the bottom of the previous page.
I had so much fun that night it was awesome. My close friends had a hard time recognizing me. Guys that I never met before were trying to pick me up. Since I'm a glutton for attention, I loved every minute of it. Even guys that I knew were flirting with me. Since I had already come to terms with my homosexuality at the time, I was awestruck.
I didn't crossdress for a long time after that, because I didn't really have the opportunity. Then in the summer of 1995 I got a part in a local community theater production of "Hitch Hiker's Guide to the Galaxy". I played the part of Number Two, in the Golgafrinchin's scenes towards the end. He's the guy who is a super military type. Well that's when I met James. He and his girlfriend are really close friendsof mine. Since they were involved in the Rocky Horror Picture Show, I started going to the show with them. That's when I found Rocky a safe place to crossdress.
Then there was the night that James and I went to the Neon Movies to see the Ed Wood film "Glen or Glenda", which is about crossdressing. Of course I showed up wearing a black miniskirt, top and wig. I was amazed that he had the guts to sit next to me to watch the film since I was the only one to show up in drag. His acceptance of me made me feel safe enough to explore this new found side of myself.
At first I considered myself a transvestite, but now I consider myself a full drag queen. My taste in clothing and makeup has improved, as well as my presence while in drag. I have gone to a lot of the local gay clubs in drag and feel very comfortable doing so. I am not in a relationship, and currently choose to be sex free. I'm the type of person that only uses sex as an expression of true love and I'm only interested in a monogamous relationship. I figure when God thinks it's it's right for me, it will happen. I have the patience to wait :)
One other thing. As a tribute to Elvira, I chose the drag name Cassandra Luv. This is because Elvira's real name is Cassandra Peterson. I chose the last name of Luv because without the love and support from my friends and family, I wouldn't be the caring person that I am today. So in return I try to spread a bit of love and support to whoever needs or wants it. Like Shakespeare said, "to thine own self be true". I came out to all my family and friends in 1996 and I have heard little complaints from any of them. I am a gay drag queen, and proud of it. Be proud of what you are, no matter what that is.