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I'm a 45 year old divorced Native American male, 5'11" and about 200 pounds. I have four children ages 24 through 28. They now all accept me for what I am, except for Paul. In order of age their names are Paul, Natalie, April and Patrick. BTW - Patrick and his fiance' made me a grandpa on 2-8-97. Do you think that bothers me? No way! My granddaughter Emily is going to be spoiled rotten :) Grandpa's priveledge :)
My career has ranged from teaching electronics to computer programming. My last job was with a government agency as a microcomputer and network guru. I happened to be carrying some equipment down the stairs one day in 1989 and fell down a few flights of stairs. After tripping over a stupid dangling power cord. After a severe back injury I have been disabled since. I get around ok and generally have a lot of fun. There is so much to do here in Dayton, no one can be bored unless they really worked at it.
I have also been performing on stage and TV at many professional levels since 1966. I now perform on stage at Jessie Celebrity Show bar in Dayton, Ohio.
I also sit around and surf the web at all hours of the night and day. Ain't life a bitch? Well, my favorite joke is "Life used to be a bitch but then I got a divorce..." :)
Religion? I don't believe in it, but I have nothing against it. Organized religion is not for me. I do believe in God and worship my understanding of The Creator in my own way. Many people have tried to preach to me about it, including my youngest son. I love the kid and I know he loves me, but as soon as I get the feeling that someone is trying to tell me how to live my life: my mind, heart and ears shut them out.
I am a gay cross dresser. Yes, I like to wear women's clothing. Many people have asked me why, and I always have a hard time answering them. For one thing, I feel that The Creator made me half male and half female. I have fully operational male genetalia and have no wish to change that. I'm happy with the way my body is now. However, my mannerisms change from super macho to tenderly feminine depending on my mood, regardless of what I am wearing. Whenever I meet a friend on the street it's only natural for me to walk up to them and put my arms around them, hugging them tight. If I see someone being bullied I'll switch to my "Rambo" mode and jump in there ready to dance. I am not confused about my sexual identity or sexuality. I'm very comfortable expressing either side dressed accordingly. It's a good idea for a guy to at least once get all dolled up in a dress and makeup so he can see all the trouble us gurls have to go through to look pretty. The first time I tried going the whole nine yards, I was amazed at all the work involved. Instead of a shower, shave, and jumping into a pair of pants, it was an all-day workout!
Do you disapprove? Do I really care? Lots of people have made fun of my crossdressing, but it doesn't really bother me anymore. I've learned to be patient with ignorant and prejudiced people. My friends and family accept me for the caring person that I am, and that's what really counts. One of my favorite quotes is from an art film called I Shot Andy Warhol. The character in the film, a drag queen named Candy Cain, said "Socially unnacceptable people make the best friends and lovers, because they are the most sensitive".
So the next time you decide to make fun of someone because of their lifestyle, keep in mind that the person you put down has very sensitive feelings about it. As long as they don't hurt anyone else in their lifestyle, what's the harm in leaving them alone if you disapprove? No one is looking for your approval, only a little bit of human understanding and acceptance. We are all God's children, no matter what we do with our lives.
Here are some pictures that were taken at the Halloween Party.